What happens when nothing seems to be going right? When the medication you are taking may or may not be helping? When almost a year of unemployment is getting you down? Well. First of all, one has to see failure not as failure but as part of life’s ups and downs. Secondly, we are not in control of everything. Sometimes things just don’t go the way we planned for no fault of our own. And this is the important bit. Letting go of blame and reinstating self-worth is the key. Yes, you’re hurting. Yes, things can be unfair. Yes, there is nothing you can do about it. But you can control how you react. Are you going to let things get you down, or are you going to hold your head up high and keep on moving forward, without looking back? Well. Of course that may the best way to deal with it. But it is often not so straightforward, and can also be the hardest thing to do. Sometimes, wallowing in it is the only way out. Let yourself feel the hurt, the anger, the pain. Allow yourself to feel. Yes, something didn’t go right. I’m sorry, dear self. Let’s cry. Let’s admit defeat. Let’s let it out. This may be the healthiest response, as smoothing over the hurt and ploughing on may in fact be a form of denial that will come back and bite you when you least expect it. A healthy emotional dump could be just what’s needed. Clean out your system. And let go. Yes, letting go – this is key. Whatever way you choose to deal with it, moving on is the most important bit. Things change. They will get better. Just keep moving. Just keep swimming. And one day you will fly. I guarantee it.